of Honor Duties
As the Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in
making sure the bride's and groom's wedding is a success. Many times the groom will not
help out as much as the bride would like which is why your role is so important! Below we
have listed some of the top maid of honor duties to make the process more manageable and
Help in going with the bride to look at
different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to
have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can
participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.
the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if
she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need
to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to
If the bride needs help in ordering
and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for
narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding,
shower and bachelorette parties.
with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very
important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in
enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the
multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the
dress looks and fits.
Many times the groom does not want
to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your
friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the
bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing
if she needs help.
the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more
people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and
move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to
bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the
Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party! You should also
attend both the bridal shower and
bachelorette party as it is an honor for you to be there and
hurtful if you cannot attend unless you have good reason.
keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.
Attend and help out during the
rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and
forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.
messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially
if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
bridal fairs with the bride as well as cake and catering tasting.
bridal shower games for the bridal shower.
Make sure the bride
arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor
Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.
the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Be the messenger if the bride wants
to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.
the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or
issues. It is much better to be proactive.
Help make sure the bride has privacy
if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Help the bride with her veil and
train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train
which takes away from her experience for a moment.
your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you
can be the calming source with your presence.
Keeper of the brides bouquet during
the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.
of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your
possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it
is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and
groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not
steal or pick it up by accident.
but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since
it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can
really make the difference!
often, the duty of "straightening/fluffing" the Bride's dress is
overlooked. If the Bride is staying on a level, straight path, then
this can be done before her descent down the aisle. However, if she
is turning, or stepping up steps and/or turning to reach her
destination, then the Maid/Matron of Honor should first adjust her
train before accepting the bouquet to hold. This is most easily done
by holding the train at points about (2) feet apart, and gently
"shaking" the train (as if shaking a rug!) one good time, and it
will fall beautifully in place.
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